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It's the Characters' Blog as they jump off their pages to interact with you in philosophy, current events, and new parables for biblical reflexes sure to rhyme with the original cozy mini-mystery series: Karma's Revenge Play detective along with the characters themselves for deeper looks and bolder theories off the pages! After all "stress changes the truth for itslef, while peace changes itself for the truth. Enjoy


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The 10 Commandments of Online Dating

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on October 15, 2019 at 4:45 PM Comments comments (0)

The objective is to protect hearts & relationship potential. Let's begin.


1. Honor Thy "Expiration Date"

To avoid the trap of a Catfish, give that special someone homework due on a "specific date" in the near future (birthday is preferred): send picture proof. This way, you can enjoy the bond and have emotional insurance, simply by honoring the promised "expiration date" of this overdue experience.


2. Thou Shall Have No Other E-mails

Most scammers will immediately isolate you off the dating site and within their personal email so they can speak strategically to you to get money, inappropriate favors, steal data, ect. Because your heart is involved, and the extra privacy can be rationalized as romantic, this may be tempting. So make a decision beforehand to stick to this commandment for your heart's and time's sake.


3. Thou Shalt Not Lend

Love and empathy are 2 different things. If you feel like a target of operant conditioning, where love seems like it's being held for ransom, move on. Both love and help need should require sincerity, rather than an inconvenient back story to put the courting process on hold until you alone come to the economic rescue. So no love banks, okay? Leave a loan alone.


4. Remember The "Special Data"

This is also a good icebreaker. Quiz your potential mate on your profile...from inside your profile. Then make their correct answer a "special data" password! This is the dating equivalent of "click here to prove you're not a spam robot." Doing this will expose those love imposters who copy & paste their fishy phishing introduction with some other unshy motive.

Your quick profile quiz instruction can be as simple as them answering "what was my last hobby listed in my profile?" Use it like a password first before their message to you. This way you'll know that any message that doesn't begin with "skydiving" for example isn't paying close enough attention. You'll know before they know!


5. Thou Shalt Not Take the Future in Vain

Many profiles have what I like to call "Penpal Profiles," meaning they're just looking for someone to talk to. They have absolutely no intention of dating or meeting up. But, in the most innocent of ways, they're wasting your heart's time. To avoid this, clear that field with "future language." Give them a "meetup password" for whenever they decide to ask you out or vise versa. And observe their reaction. The "future language" will test the serious level, while simultaneously confirming yours!

Go even further by giving them a "freestyle questionnaire" to complete in 60 seconds ranging from how they feel about kids, to their willingness to relocate, from political affiliations, to religious identity. And don't worry because real love is a longtime fan of the future.


6. Thou Shalt Not Entertain False Profiles

There's no way you should help someone manipulate your heart! Spotting a big inconsistency in what they've chosen to promote, it goes against the seniority that honesty itself should have in a relationship. This is dating profile; it's not employment! And the question becomes whether it's insecurity, dishonesty by choice, a narcissistic personality, or all of the above. This is love traffic to seriously consider.


7. Honor Thy Logic & Their Clues

Remember our detective's strategy: The Invisible Oops? You must sometimes create your own opportunity to see what's really in someone's heart to protect your own. So in their messages, search for the motive, look for the origin of any alleged misfortune which mysteriously high-jack your conversations. Ask yourself, "How did the conversation steer here?" Even print it out to examine. If all their messages produce more anxiety than the date that hasn't even happened yet, do what you must before allowing yourself to get too involved in a unprovable dilemma. Always remember:


"Wisdom will have Delilah's plan 'cut short' before it lacks the strength to" - Me


8. Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery (Unknowingly)

In one online dating site, 60 percent of the profiles were already married. And it wasn't Ashley Madison. Skip the marital traffic, the unfair homewrecker reputation, and the camera crew of Cheaters storming your table with the funnier suggestion to make sure they're not married. Try searching for their Facebook relationship status. Or ask them directly, under the sincere premise that you're beginning to really like them.


9. Thou Shalt Not Trust (Initially)

It's always amazing to me how most people view trust as a checklist they'll just throw away for someone they love prematurely. Yet most religions support the idea of a higher power "testing them." In the Bible, Job was being tested by God. And God already like him! Add to the scripture that "God is love," and why is this process uneven between humans looking for love? Why is a even probation period for trust sometimes a deal-breaker? I'll tell you why. Desperation perceived, whether true or not, is a bargain to people who eventually aren't "worth" you! I'm talking about these poker-face, game-player, people who stay allergic to accountability by choice. They don't want a "trust test" because they know they'll fail. So they project their burden onto you, "trust me." Bad relationships start from free trust. Good things (including you) come to those who wait.


10. Thou Shalt Not Rush

Have a "Skype Date" first! Real love is a slow-motioned experience of the rhymes between 2 deserving people. So if your special someone is rushing this process, you might want to look for other clues of their sincerity. Have a scheduled cup of coffee from your laptop. There's the psychological benefit of your comfort level at home, you'll save money for the real date. And more importantly, you'll be just a click away from anything negative or inaccurate.


Extra Commandment

11.Thou Shall Look for "Puzzle Pieces"

This extra 11th Commandment is advanced and only available on the original blog entry. Click below to reveal. Enjoy yourselves. Stay safe. Love freely with The 10 Commandments of Online Dating.


Guess the Character?

This article is inspired by Eden, the shy bridesmaid in cozy mini-mystery: The Shotgun's Wedding by the same author.


11. Thou Shall Look for the "Puzzle Pieces"

Inside the riddle of the Starving Restaurant (in the book Narcissistic Puzzle Peace), you got the chance to explore the stages, phrases, and terms of emotional abuse. Click on extra riddle scenes  to learn more specifically during the date. Enjoy yourselves. Stay safe. Love freely with The 10 Commandments of Online Dating.

The Psychological World of A.D.D (Explained in Visuals)

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on October 13, 2019 at 9:50 PM Comments comments (0)

Imagine trying to take a picture with a camera that can’t focus on anything specifically. After that, imagine traveling with a map keeps changing its picture, right in the middle of your journey. Imagine being a judge in a beauty contest, where the 3 finalists…are triplets! And I think I can imagine how you might feel. Anywhere between 2 to 12 percent of our children today don’t have to image because they live out this experience every day. It’s called Attention Deficit Disorder or A.D.D. And by the end of this quick visual, you’ll have a clear understanding of the mentality and mechanics of A.D.D. So observe on behalf of your children and loves ones because A.D.D is not the problem! It’s the connection between who they are, and what we don’t know, that’s causing our children so much pain… that we really couldn’t imagine.


A.D.D is an attention span deficiency. It’s an inability to discriminate against external stimuli. But for a visual example, allow me to ask you: as a judge in a beauty contest, how can you pick a winner… out of triplets? And the answer to that question is, “welcome to the world of Attention Deficit Disorder,” where everything has the same psychological value across the board. Inside the mind of these special, and sometimes gifted, kids every sound and every color is noticed and experienced equally. And although this actually sounds positive, it poses as a problem whenever these kids need to concentrate. It’s just like the camera I mentioned that cannot focus on anything specifically. Picture taking a picture of task completion, and it’s hard for anyone with A.D.D to smile at that camera. Children with A.D.D are often accused of being irresponsible. After all, everyone understands task completion where you start at a certain point, and you don’t stop until you get to your destination. It’s a lot like traveling! But could you travel to the rhythm of that mysterious map that keeps changing its picture on you and your every move? Welcome to the world of Attention Deficit Disorder. If you have a child who has trouble cleaning their room all at once, can’t seem to finish in one setting, or can’t complete a duty that lacks interest, it is imperative to pay more attention that. Again, the psychological condition and our current unawareness as a society is just too much for our children. Believe me, I know.

 

The Bible Explain in Less than a Minute (Fun Parable)

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on October 10, 2019 at 1:25 AM Comments comments (0)

The Parable of the Visiting Son (Explaining Salvation)


Sunny comes from out of town to visit his father (John 1:29) (Matthew 5:17), only to discover his pop surrounded by police, businessmen, and lawyers (Ephesians 6:12).

"What’s going on?” Junior demands.
"They're taking my home." His father says reluctantly (John 10:10).
"Give ME the debt!” The son yells toward the just-business environment (Isaiah 53:3).

The nosy crowd is astonished, including the father.

"But," the bankers replies, "this is not your problem! (John 18:35)”

The son stands his ground until the banker finally gives in (Luke 22:42). And, with the bill now in junior's name, the son simply reaches in his pocket and pays it off, cash (Isaiah 53:10). And immediately after, many witness the banker and the son wink at each other. To this day, spectators wonder, "Did the banker secretly arrange for this well-timed rescue?" (I John 1:2) (Psalms 22:30)


Story Symbolism

  • Son = Jesus (Son of God) (Son of Man)
  • Father = Mankind
  • Other Town = Heaven
  • Banker = God Almighty
  • Secret Wink = Messiah Confirmation
  • Nosy Crowd = Pharisees

A Cozy Detective Christian Parable

God Bless!


Scripture Index

Psalms 22:30

A posterity shall serve Him.

It will be recounted of the Lord to the next generation


Proverbs 29:18

Where there is no revelation, the people cast off restraint;

But happy is he who keeps the law.


Proverbs 16:18

Pride goes before destruction,

And a haughty spirit before a fall.


Mark 1:15

and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, and believe in the gospel.”


Matthew 5:17

"Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill."


Luke 22:42

saying, “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.”


Luke 14:11

For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”


John 18:35

Pilate answered, “Am I a Jew? Your own nation and the chief priests have delivered You to me. What have You done?”


John 10:10

The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.


John 1:29

The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him, and said, “Behold! The Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!


I John 3:16

By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.


I John 1:2

the life was manifested, and we have seen, and bear witness, and declare to you that eternal life which was with the Father and was manifested to us


Isaiah 53:10

Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise Him;

He has put Him to grief.

When You make His soul an offering for sin,

He shall see His seed, He shall prolong His days,

And the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in His hand.


Isaiah 53:3

He is despised and rejected by men,

A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.

And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him;

He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.


Ephesians 6:12

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

Does Santa Claus Qualify as an Idol?

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on October 10, 2019 at 1:05 AM Comments comments (0)

My fellow believers:

 

I'm wondering about the automatic annual reflexes to perpetuate the concept of Santa Claus to children. Arguably it promotes Mammon, encourages materialism, and it's all based on child "reverence" from another force who knows whether "you've been naughty or nice!" Children don't depend on Christmas day to have an imagination or believe. They do just fine. Finally, when a child grows out of this belief, everyone just abandons this reindeer ritual. So two quick questions:

 

  • 1. Does Santa Claus actually fit the definition of an Idol?
  • 2. Does the concept of Santa Claus actually stunt Faith in Child Development?

 

Your thoughts?

 

"Christmas without the 'Christ' is just a 'mas (miss).'"

Guess the Character?

This article is character inspired by Justin from the Parable of The Hidden Smile in Christian Parables: The Ventriloquist (Book 1) . He was the hide & seek champion who finally found himself!

Top 5 Signs of a Fake Apology

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on October 3, 2019 at 12:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Many people fail at getting or giving a sincere apology. And the mystery follows from relationships lost, opportunities missed, and dysfunction created. What they needed was a quick checklist for sincerity! And both the offender and the offended needed awareness itself to win! This apology checklist does both to surgically remove the confusion wining right now! So if an apology has any of these signs, they are "pieces of the puzzle" keeping you puzzled.

 

1. The Word IF

Does “I’m sorry if…” sound familiar? They’re still holding on to their doubt, even as they apologize? Whenever you accept this type of apology, you are endorsing the idea that your perception or emotional rights don’t matter. Beware of any offender okay with this.


2. Weird Timing

This is a double-meaning experience of a seemingly rushed epiphany that just happens to help the offender save face at the same time. The real goal might be damage-control, while validating you barely makes their Top 5. So you must ask yourself these quick questions:


  • where did they say this epiphany came from?
  • what followed after their words?
  • how does this potential moment of maturity relate to their call-to-action?
  • is there any evidence their Flying Monkeys were redirected?

If you're puzzled trying to answer these questions, you may still be a mere Target to their tactics. Fake epiphanies are not beneath the instruments of an insincere, win-by-all-means, Cluster B personality type. As you wonder about motive, remember this.

"Fear is stronger than love." - Machiavelli


3. A Moment to Reciprocate

And now… it’s your turn? After their last resort, they offer an artificial apology and then wait for you to apologize too. In algebra, two fake apologies will just ‘cancel each other out.’ No change, no sincerity; only tradition won that conversation. And just like algebra, you’re sure to revisit this “problem” again unless or until you get amnesia, ‘ditch class,’ or start to ‘grade off a curve.’ This is where a relationship becomes unhealthy. Never allow omission to get to a point where sincerity itself is owed an apology!


4. A Cap on Their Remedy

This is the most predicable response. When an offender is out of tactics, you’ll hear “well… all I can do is say ‘sorry.” Sound familiar? Think about this for a second: they’re clueless as to why you’re upset, or how you have a right to be. But somehow during this confrontation, they’ve thought this whole thing out and they’re the victim of no options! There’s a theme here: emotional sloth and artificial confidence. If only this person cared for others like they care for “doing nothing at all,” no apologies would be necessary!

 

5. A Boycott Against Change

When it comes to accountability, most offenders have a plan to escape but no plan to change. For the special bonds they’ve chosen, they should expect to change as a healthy relationship requires. If you hear, “I am what I am” as a reflex to everything, this falls short of sincerity.

Business will settle lawsuits, with no admission of guilt and a confidentiality agreement. But that’s “just business!” Personal relationships are supposed to enjoy more.


“Stress changes the Truth for itself; Peace changes itself for the Truth.” - Jwyan C. Johnson


Rules for the Offended

“Being angry is easy; anyone can do it. But being angry at the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right reason, and in the right way is not easy. It is not within everyone’s power" - Aristotle


Beware of anyone constantly failing this checklist. You may be dealing with a Narcissist on a mission to cause you emotional abuse. And you deserve "peace from the puzzle."

So be your own mystery detective as these are the sincere apology signs.


Guess the Character?

This article is from the character Katlyn Porter featured in the cozy mini-mystery The Shotgun's Wedding. She was the admired news reporter who explored the missing bachelor party guest, and the possibility of it being a alibi.

Toxic Relationship and Narcissistic Signs

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on October 3, 2019 at 12:05 AM Comments comments (0)

Imagine a store owner phones a very popular customer, with an unusual request:


“Hello sir. Is this Mr. Never Satisfied? I’m the Manager of Customer Service Incorporated. And I’ve been looking at your incredible history of dissatisfactions as a customer. With all the exchanges, damaged returns, and settled lawsuits, Mr. Never Satisfied you’re actually costing us money! So I called to ask you to NOT be our customer anymore.”


Can they do that? Is this “just business?” A toxic relationship can mirror this dilemma. It’ll actually cost you if you stay with this Never Satisfied customer. Don’t bankrupt yourself. Healthy friendships and real love should always make a profit in your heart.

 

Can They Do That?

 A toxic relationship depends on manipulation while it’s going. But when facing an actual breakup, narcissistic abuse depends on tradition (even religion) to make their target stay (not love or negotiation). The common denominator is strategy. And this type of insecurity is relentless against its target. As to the story above, the answer to “can they do that?” is an insistent yes, for the sake of your emotional health.

 

Is This “Just Business?”

Imagine Never Satisfied customer responding to this break up. It will always follow the same confusing rhythm, the same psychological stages of any toxic relationship (as told inside the book). From Gaslighting, to Hoovering, from a Smear Campaign, to their twisted Stonewall intentions, these are the signs of a toxic relationship. And they make up the metaphorical history of Never Satisfied.

 

They’ll Actually Cost You!

What can a toxic relationship do to you? How can it actually cost you, rather than benefit you as a healthy relationship does? Narcissistic people manipulate cause-and-effect so much that it ruins its target’s self-perception and self-worth. One of signs of narcissist is their eventual seniority over logic and an exhausted spouse, family member, or friend.


Undercover Customer Revenge

Harder to imagine is this Never Satisfied customer disappearing without a fight. If you already read the book, you know why. And you know what to expect. It starts with a psychological performance of the The Flying Monkeys inside the book’s riddle.

The objective of a Flying Monkey is unfortunately at all costs. These alleged peacemakers reason how to aim their approach with these realities:


  • Narcissists never listen. Instead they only care about winning and losing.
  • Targets do listen. They are sensitive to your point-of-view, even if they disagree.

 

So their decision is easy: approach the Target. But here’s where it gets hard: the target is rarely at fault at all (opting out is their right!). And with nothing to change about the Target, the relentless nature of the Flying Monkey becomes an unfair method: getting the innocent Target to listen to and believe the tricky gaslighting, as mentioned in the book. And they’ll do it over-and-over again unless or until the Target recognizes that this so-called, concerned, alleged peacemaker is actually working on commission for their original pain-maker: the narcissist.

By the way, the story’s Manager of Customer Service Incorporated is you! Protect your heart at all costs. It’s “just business.”


“The distance between U and I in Communication varies by perception” - Jwyan C. Johnson


Guess the Character?

This article comes from Officer Wolfe from the cozy-mini mystery The Shotgun's Wedding.

Faith vs. Lady Luck

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on October 1, 2019 at 8:45 PM Comments comments (0)

Thomas was the curious patient who tip-toed away from Lady Luck to another land higher and deeper: Faith. This story is from the collection of new Christian Parables called Faith and The Blindfold. If you haven't read this parable yet, get it free today on any eBook or Kindle Device. You'll experience the same 17 scriptures in our story order, and in our animated way (called WordPlay!). Family Skits, Symbolism, and Book Discussion Question are all included. Enjoy! But don't tell your friends the surprise ending, okay?

 

A man's free will can actually be a disadvantage if they have the wrong self-perception because "as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7)." Doubt limits potential to succeed and increases your appetite to worry. And this will cause you to redefine your boundaries, and mistake every grape for a sour grape. And without knowing it, you've outfoxed yourself into a realm of doubt! Ready to outsmart this dilema (like Dedra did from her story)? Ready to overcome a faith phobia? Begin with biblical reflexes here:

Scriptures on Faith

I Corinthians 2:5
That your faith should not be in the wisdom of men but in the power of God

I Corinthians 16:13
Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong.

II Corinthians 1:24
Not that we have dominion over your faith, but are fellow workers for your joy; for by faith you stand.

II Corinthians 5:7
For we walk y faith, not by sight.

Ephesians 2:8
For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God.

Ephesians 6:16
Above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one.

Hebrews 11:1
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

James 1:3
Knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.

I John 5:4
For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world: our faith.

Matthew 17:20
So Jesus said to them, “Because of your unbelief; for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, “Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.

I Peter 5:9
Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experience by your brotherhood in the world.

Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.

Proverbs 3:6
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.

Psalms 118:8
It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man.

Romans 10:17
So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

I Thessalonians 3:7
Therefore, brethren, in all our affliction and distress we were comforted concerning you by your faith.

II Timothy 4:7
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race. I have kept the faith.


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The Dominion Plan (Outsmart Money Problems)

Posted by imagereflexion@aol.com on September 30, 2019 at 11:25 PM Comments comments (0)

Money Problems?

The Israelites went from slaves in a stranger’s land to owners of their own land. And in the middle of this journey was the wilderness: God training ground of choice. Part of Leviticus is the economic training to ensure His people aren’t enslaved again by money. This is where another obstacle today gets in our way. It’s a success “checker” called The Lender.

The reason we should “lend and not borrow” is because “a borrower becomes a slave to its lender (Proverbs 22:7).” So I offer you spiritually responsible method called The Dominion Plan. It's a fun and spiritually responsible way to balance a lifestyle, maintenance the heart, and never face this finance “checker.”

Begin with this simple question: can you make it with only 70% of your income? I'm talking about staying out of the wilderness. If the answer is no, make some adjustments to get to that point before you continue. You can cross examine some of your spending habits, work extra hours, or practice more minimalist living. Any reasonable sacrifice will be worth it.

We’re gonna divide your income into 4 percentages: 10-70-10-10.

10%
For…you guessed it!

The first 10 percent is inspired by Jacob after he received the blessing, and once celebrate by King David as a process off of “God’s giving hand,” we’re talking about tithing. And that is my story in Book 1. You guys remember me in The Parable of The Invisible Car Pool right? How was my performance?

70%
For The Wilderness Reflex

70 percent of your income is to live basic and humble. Anything you buy that you feel tempted to advertise to your friends doesn't fall into this category. You’ll learn why in a second. The method is gonna substitute Retail therapy, your gambling, and your costly escapes.

10%
Twist the Familiar

Find out the amount your local bank charges for overdraft fee in checking account. And this same amount is now your fee to yourself! You’ll be saving up 10 percent of everything you make in cash form, letting it build. And whenever you’re in need, borrow from yourself prepared to repay it in cash with the overdraft fee first chance you get. Any inability to do this on time doubles you penalty. And your own IOU get bigger than your ability

See this way you hold every new desire accountable, measuring against all you accumulated labor. This will restore and maintain your dominion. You’ll master your servitude for one Master only. Remember, you can’t serve both God and mammon. You’re basically betraying the lure of money and building it up to please God. This will maintain your resistance to temptation. Use this method as a head start to actively pleasing God.

10%
Invest in Something You Didn't see Coming!

Life is about finding purpose, setting goals, believing in and owning yourself. Just as we “are the salt of the earth,” these experiences are arguably the “flavor of our lifestyle.” Without it, we go from flavorless, to bitter, to spoiled. Any routine that demands a break from these 3 things is just emotional abuse. That’s why it’s important to set money aside for you to invest in you, without built up psychological pressure. This way, the reflex of retail therapy is over! Here are a few suggestions:

  • Hobbies: advertise your business or hobby
  • Singers: buy some studio time
  • Artists: advertise your work on bigger platforms
  • Learners: buy a fun college course

Whatever you choose, it should maintenance your potential. Invest in a “Sabbath day” away from consistency of how public opinion’s defines you. And your faith won’t have so much pressure! How about being inspired and/or being an inspiration without the debt? Your character will continue to be defined, taking nothing away from the other categories. It should be a vacation away from your cycle. Believe me 10 percent will never seem too costly on the inside.

What will happen?! And every step you take to you potential becomes a platform out of the wilderness and into your Promised Land.

This advice is free Christian love from the Taxi Driver character in Christian Parables. But feel free to buy me lunch with a small donation. Congratulations in advance on owning this new platform referred to as "you!"


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