|Posted by elevenfive on October 15, 2019 at 4:45 PM||comments (1)|
The objective is to protect hearts & relationship potential. Let's begin.
1. Honor Thy "Expiration Date"
To avoid the trap of a Catfish, give that special someone homework due on a "specific date" in the near future (birthday is preferred): send picture proof. This way, you can enjoy the bond and have emotional insurance, simply by honoring the promised "expiration date" of this overdue experience.
2. Thou Shall Have No Other E-mails
Most scammers will immediately isolate you off the dating site and within their personal email so they can speak strategically to you to get money, inappropriate favors, steal data, ect. Because your heart is involved, and the extra privacy can be rationalized as romantic, this may be tempting. So make a decision beforehand to stick to this commandment for your heart's and time's sake.
3. Thou Shalt Not Lend
Love and empathy are 2 different things. If you feel like a target of operant conditioning, where love seems like it's being held for ransom, move on. Both love and help need should require sincerity, rather than an inconvenient back story to put the courting process on hold until you alone come to the economic rescue. So no love banks, okay? Leave a loan alone.
4. Remember The "Special Data"
This is also a good icebreaker. Quiz your potential mate on your profile...from inside your profile. Then make their correct answer a "special data" password! This is the dating equivalent of "click here to prove you're not a spam robot." Doing this will expose those love imposters who copy & paste their fishy phishing introduction with some other unshy motive.
Your quick profile quiz instruction can be as simple as them answering "what was my last hobby listed in my profile?" Use it like a password first before their message to you. This way you'll know that any message that doesn't begin with "skydiving" for example isn't paying close enough attention. You'll know before they know!
5. Thou Shalt Not Take the Future in Vain
Many profiles have what I like to call "Penpal Profiles," meaning they're just looking for someone to talk to. They have absolutely no intention of dating or meeting up. But, in the most innocent of ways, they're wasting your heart's time. To avoid this, clear that field with "future language." Give them a "meetup password" for whenever they decide to ask you out or vise versa. And observe their reaction. The "future language" will test the serious level, while simultaneously confirming yours!
Go even further by giving them a "freestyle questionnaire" to complete in 60 seconds ranging from how they feel about kids, to their willingness to relocate, from political affiliations, to religious identity. And don't worry because real love is a longtime fan of the future.
6. Thou Shalt Not Entertain False Profiles
There's no way you should help someone manipulate your heart! Spotting a big inconsistency in what they've chosen to promote, it goes against the seniority that honesty itself should have in a relationship. This is dating profile; it's not employment! And the question becomes whether it's insecurity, dishonesty by choice, a narcissistic personality, or all of the above. This is love traffic to seriously consider.
7. Honor Thy Logic & Their Clues
Remember our detective's strategy: The Invisible Oops? You must sometimes create your own opportunity to see what's really in someone's heart to protect your own. So in their messages, search for the motive, look for the origin of any alleged misfortune which mysteriously high-jack your conversations. Ask yourself, "How did the conversation steer here?" Even print it out to examine. If all their messages produce more anxiety than the date that hasn't even happened yet, do what you must before allowing yourself to get too involved in a unprovable dilemma. Always remember:
"Wisdom will have Delilah's plan 'cut short' before it lacks the strength to" - Me
8. Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery (Unknowingly)
In one online dating site, 60 percent of the profiles were already married. And it wasn't Ashley Madison. Skip the marital traffic, the unfair homewrecker reputation, and the camera crew of Cheaters storming your table with the funnier suggestion to make sure they're not married. Try searching for their Facebook relationship status. Or ask them directly, under the sincere premise that you're beginning to really like them.
9. Thou Shalt Not Trust (Initially)
It's always amazing to me how most people view trust as a checklist they'll just throw away for someone they love prematurely. Yet most religions support the idea of a higher power "testing them." In the Bible, Job was being tested by God. And God already like him! Add to the scripture that "God is love," and why is this process uneven between humans looking for love? Why is a even probation period for trust sometimes a deal-breaker? I'll tell you why. Desperation perceived, whether true or not, is a bargain to people who eventually aren't "worth" you! I'm talking about these poker-face, game-player, people who stay allergic to accountability by choice. They don't want a "trust test" because they know they'll fail. So they project their burden onto you, "trust me." Bad relationships start from free trust. Good things (including you) come to those who wait.
10. Thou Shalt Not Rush
Have a "Skype Date" first! Real love is a slow-motioned experience of the rhymes between 2 deserving people. So if your special someone is rushing this process, you might want to look for other clues of their sincerity. Have a scheduled cup of coffee from your laptop. There's the psychological benefit of your comfort level at home, you'll save money for the real date. And more importantly, you'll be just a click away from anything negative or inaccurate.
11.Thou Shall Look for "Puzzle Pieces"
This extra 11th Commandment is advanced and only available on the original blog entry. Click below to reveal. Enjoy yourselves. Stay safe. Love freely with The 10 Commandments of Online Dating.
Guess the Character?
This article is inspired by Eden, the shy bridesmaid in cozy mini-mystery: The Shotgun's Wedding by the same author.
11. Thou Shall Look for the "Puzzle Pieces"
Inside the riddle of the Starving Restaurant (in the book Narcissistic Puzzle Peace), you got the chance to explore the stages, phrases, and terms of emotional abuse. Click on extra riddle scenes to learn more specifically during the date. Enjoy yourselves. Stay safe. Love freely with The 10 Commandments of Online Dating.
|Posted by elevenfive on October 10, 2019 at 1:25 AM||comments (0)|
The Parable of the Visiting Son (Explaining Salvation)
Sunny comes from out of town to visit his father (John 1:29) (Matthew 5:17), only to discover his pop surrounded by police, businessmen, and lawyers (Ephesians 6:12).
"What’s going on?” Junior demands.
"They're taking my home." His father says reluctantly (John 10:10).
"Give ME the debt!” The son yells toward the just-business environment (Isaiah 53:3).
The nosy crowd is astonished, including the father.
"But," the bankers replies, "this is not your problem! (John 18:35)”
The son stands his ground until the banker finally gives in (Luke 22:42). And, with the bill now in junior's name, the son simply reaches in his pocket and pays it off, cash (Isaiah 53:10). And immediately after, many witness the banker and the son wink at each other. To this day, spectators wonder, "Did the banker secretly arrange for this well-timed rescue?" (I John 1:2) (Psalms 22:30)
- Son = Jesus (Son of God) (Son of Man)
- Father = Mankind
- Other Town = Heaven
- Banker = God Almighty
- Secret Wink = Messiah Confirmation
- Nosy Crowd = Pharisees
A Cozy Detective Christian Parable
A posterity shall serve Him.
It will be recounted of the Lord to the next generation
Where there is no revelation, the people cast off restraint;
But happy is he who keeps the law.
Pride goes before destruction,
And a haughty spirit before a fall.
and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, and believe in the gospel.”
"Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill."
saying, “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.”
For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”
Pilate answered, “Am I a Jew? Your own nation and the chief priests have delivered You to me. What have You done?”
The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.
The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him, and said, “Behold! The Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!
I John 3:16
By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.
I John 1:2
the life was manifested, and we have seen, and bear witness, and declare to you that eternal life which was with the Father and was manifested to us
Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise Him;
He has put Him to grief.
When You make His soul an offering for sin,
He shall see His seed, He shall prolong His days,
And the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in His hand.
He is despised and rejected by men,
A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.
And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him;
He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.
For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
|Posted by elevenfive on October 10, 2019 at 1:05 AM||comments (0)|
My fellow believers:
I'm wondering about the automatic annual reflexes to perpetuate the concept of Santa Claus to children. Arguably it promotes Mammon, encourages materialism, and it's all based on child "reverence" from another force who knows whether "you've been naughty or nice!" Children don't depend on Christmas day to have an imagination or believe. They do just fine. Finally, when a child grows out of this belief, everyone just abandons this reindeer ritual. So two quick questions:
- 1. Does Santa Claus actually fit the definition of an Idol?
- 2. Does the concept of Santa Claus actually stunt Faith in Child Development?
"Christmas without the 'Christ' is just a 'mas (miss).'"
Guess the Character?
This article is character inspired by Justin from the Parable of The Hidden Smile in Christian Parables: The Ventriloquist (Book 1) . He was the hide & seek champion who finally found himself!
|Posted by elevenfive on October 1, 2019 at 8:45 PM||comments (0)|
Thomas was the curious patient who tip-toed away from Lady Luck to another land higher and deeper: Faith. This story is from the collection of new Christian Parables called Faith and The Blindfold. If you haven't read this parable yet, get it free today on any eBook or Kindle Device. You'll experience the same 17 scriptures in our story order, and in our animated way (called WordPlay!). Family Skits, Symbolism, and Book Discussion Question are all included. Enjoy! But don't tell your friends the surprise ending, okay?
A man's free will can actually be a disadvantage if they have the wrong self-perception because "as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7)." Doubt limits potential to succeed and increases your appetite to worry. And this will cause you to redefine your boundaries, and mistake every grape for a sour grape. And without knowing it, you've outfoxed yourself into a realm of doubt! Ready to outsmart this dilema (like Dedra did from her story)? Ready to overcome a faith phobia? Begin with biblical reflexes here:
Scriptures on Faith
I Corinthians 2:5
That your faith should not be in the wisdom of men but in the power of God
I Corinthians 16:13
Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong.
II Corinthians 1:24
Not that we have dominion over your faith, but are fellow workers for your joy; for by faith you stand.
II Corinthians 5:7
For we walk y faith, not by sight.
For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God.
Above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one.
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
Knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.
I John 5:4
For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world: our faith.
So Jesus said to them, “Because of your unbelief; for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, “Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.
I Peter 5:9
Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experience by your brotherhood in the world.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.
It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man.
So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.
I Thessalonians 3:7
Therefore, brethren, in all our affliction and distress we were comforted concerning you by your faith.
II Timothy 4:7
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race. I have kept the faith.
Faith & The Blindfold
A Cozy Christian Mini-Mystery